FindSomeone

I only got a profile on FSO because my friends told me I had to meet a guy somehow so I did so reluctantly. My profile name was Whanga Gal. I spent most of my time posting on the boards, and talking to guys that lived miles away and weren't likely to want anything from me. My marriage had been horrific towards the end and I was comfortable being on my own. I was scared at the thought of getting into another relationship, and feeling trapped, and being controlled by somebody else. However, I thought it was worth persevering as the right guy may turn up. I had given up hope and was just enjoying FSO for the boards and the interaction with the friends I had made at events, and was just waiting for my gold membership to expire as I was going to take some time out from FSO.

Then one day I was brave enough to post photos on my profile for those who knew me to see for a 24 hour period and I got a message from a guy who I had gone to school with (Sea1971). He lived in Gisborne but was moving to Tauranga, and had an interview coming up in a few weeks. We messaged for a week, at which stage I said he may as well just come and stay at mine for his job interview (as we weren't strangers and knew each other from school and still had friends in common).

We hadn't seen each other for 24 years. We clicked instantly, and spent two days together catching up on the 24 years we had missed of each other's lives. We have very similar upbringings and enjoy a lot of the same things. He moved up to Tauranga, 2 weeks after his interview and started spending a lot of time with my kids and I. He just seemed to fit into our life. Anybody else I had seen before that had been too hard to find time to see, and didn't slot into our lives easily.

We have now been together for nearly 18 months, and things are going really well. I had job problems and he encouraged me to apply for jobs out of Tauranga and now we have moved to Wanganui together, and have started a new life together. It is nice because it feels like our place, rather then my place that he was staying at.

Both of us came from very controlling relationships so we give each other the space we need. We also both know the importance of communicating. We do however, struggle to be apart for more then a couple of days, and want to do most things together. I have bought a motorbike so we can ride together, we like going out on the boat together (or just staying on it at the Marina), and hanging out at the jetsprints together. In fact, I am sure that the way we are together might be a bit much for some people - we both know that we adore each other, and I think it is obvious to others.

He said he wanted to ask me out at school but I was one of the popular girls and I always had a boyfriend - I laugh at that as I never saw myself that way. However, it was not meant to be when we were at school, and the paths we have both followed play a big part in how we relate to each other, and the success of our relationship (which would have been totally different if we had gotten together at school).

So thank you FSO for the friendships I have made, and for reconnecting two old school mates.